Badlav (Hindi) - poetry by Purti Khare

Post by Purti Khare, a teacher at DBN Amarvilla School in Jammu; you can contact her by email pke.av@dbntrust.in, please.

Empathy, most valued quality in a teacher

Empathy is an emotion which every person goes through. A power to understand one’s situation and react accordingly. It means the power to feel the pain of others, to feel what the person is going through, to reduce his pain by eliminating his problems and making things better. Empathy is basically to understand the pain of others.

Krishna of Class 7, is one of the wonderful student of my class. He is very shy by nature but naughty too.  He is very good in all the activities and studies. Few months ago he lost his mother which is a great loss for anyone. His emotions were shaken by this incident, mother is one who supports her child at any cost and who is next to God.To lose his mother at such an early stage in life was a very big loss for him. Whenever I saw him, I felt bad for him. Post this life changing incident I found him quiet and lost in his own world. He tried to concentrate in his studies and other activities but he couldn’t. One day I found him doing some naughty things in my class. I was so happy and felt he was trying to overcome the situation, but at the same time it was my duty to teach him, what is right and what is wrong and how to behave in a class. I called him and asked  him to please behave properly in a class,  no hard words or punishment.  I did this very politely, with great concern and found him to be understanding and caring. In real life I really want to contribute a bit in his life as a teacher or as a mother so that my inner conscious will be satisfied.

Post by Nidhi Sambyal , a teacher at DBN Amarvilla School in Jammu; you can contact her by email nsl.av@dbntrust.in, please.

Empathy, a real life story

Sunil is a popular student in Class 7th of a school. You may wonder that he must be very good at studies or that he must be a brilliant sports person. He however, just a student who wants to earn a good education. Sunil is a specially abled boy who has lost motor sensation in his legs. As a result, he cannot walk, run or play like his classmates, but still he is a special student, whom the whole class loves. His classmates, who are also his closest friends, are always ready to help him with his day-to-day activities in school. Be it noting down his class work, working on his homework or any special assignments, or moving around in the school campus, he finds a helping hand close by always. Not just his fellow students, but even the teachers and other staff members of the school are quite empathetic towards his condition and they together ensure that he  doesn't find his physical condition a challenge in the pursuit of his education. His classmates want to spend time with him, talk to him, or simply fool around, as is expected of students of that age. Ali-in-all he finds a very friendly and comfortable atmosphere at school, studies are fun for him and not a burden!

Post contributed by Girja Koul, a senior teacher with decades of experience at DBN Amarvilla School in Jammu; you can contact her by email av@dbntrust.in, please.

What is Empathy?

Here is my little essay...

We are all students of life learning from each other and we are all teachers sharing our dharma gifts with the world. Empathy is required to connect on this life PATH. I must understand your PATH and you must understand mine. Then we can truly learn from one another and share beyond the veils which bind us to limited notions.

Katherine Allen

Empathy simply means understanding and sharing feelings of others. It is different from sympathy in all senses. When you empathies with a person, you try to comfort him and express your concern towards him which instills in him a confidence in himself as well as you. Understanding a person only through looking at his situations is difficult. One may look happy but might actually be not. Helping people by relating to their situations, helping them share their feelings and then motivating them to be strong , be good or bad, should be the ultimate aim.

Sharmila Vijayvargi

Empathy- An emotion which every person goes through. A power to understand one's situation and react accordingly. It means the power to feel the pain of others, to feel what the person is going through, to reduce his pain by eliminating his problems and making things better.

Empathy - As strong word is to grab one's feeling and place our self to that particular situation.

Sharing pain and sorrows of others is in nature!  To listen, to feel, to think according to the other persons outlook.

Empathy - All together is an ability to understand and share the feelings of one another!

Like if someone is disappointed and feeling doleful because of any consequences the other person will consider the same situation and feel the same to support! Basically empathy means to think according to other persons perspective. To be with them. To give solutions to their problems.

Payal Paliwal

Build Your Own Personal Brand

There are thousands of books, articles and papers available on the subject of product and services branding, and an equal number of agencies and executives across the world working on developing great brands. More courses are being curated as part of the curriculum in business schools and millions being spent on conferences and seminars to bring the experts in the field together to share their views. However, not as many conferences, courses and articles on ‘personal or individual branding’ make their way to the headlines! The fact is that all of us as individuals, too, possess the potential to be those great brands we revere. In a world that is fast to clone, it is worth thinking about what can then help individuals, in every ordinary walk of life, stand apart from the crowd and create brands for themselves. For individuals, the process can actually be simplified.

  "When you see the world through the eyes of your purpose, you see the beauty it has to offer!" 

Firstly, to share some facts surrounding Personal branding:

Effective Personal Branding is not a spin. It is not sugar coating or artificial packaging. Its roots lie in authenticity. The image manufactured for the world, has to be the actual person in reality as well. If you play a role, one that is not real, you will quickly be found out, and you will exhaust yourself one day just living those perceptions. It also means that you live in a world in which If your approach is to wear a mask, you will fail. You cannot be what others want you to be. You will have to get others to see YOU for what you really are. The traditional models at the workplace were about doing as told, blending in and adhering to what was the ‘normal.'  The new normal is to stand out. Current models are about passion, discovering meaning and purpose and about defining values. It’s about building your personal brand.

Personal Branding is not meant only for outgoing gregarious personalities. In fact, everyone, irrespective of their personality can possess a personal brand. Did you think the most amicable or social personalities are the ones who have their own brands? This is one of the biggest myths surrounding personal brand building. It supersedes personality, and rather is based on the strength of relationships!

Building a Personal Brand takes does not take time:  It emerges as a reflection of your behavior. It is not a hobby or something you ‘do’ in your spare time. You can’t ‘do’ a brand. You build it, bit by bit, everyday, every minute.

It’s not just business; It’s personal:  Can you imagine trying to say ‘ It’s not personal, it’s just business’ to any leader, teacher, or CEO who has spent half of his/her life at work and put their heart and soul into their work. Business is personal because we each crave a deeper connection with our work, a connection that transcends position and power and money, a connection in which we meet needs and create something. We all want to be valued and recognized. And we like to know that we are making a difference when we put our heart and soul into something. Our work reflects our personal lives, and our personal lives reflect our work. If you have cared for your customers, it’s personal. If you have lost sleep over a client, it’s personal. If you have gone out of your way for a colleague, it’s personal. If you stayed extra hours to help a team member, it’s personal. The fine line between personal and business has evaporated

We are connected- everywhere, all of the time. Your community partners will know what you are doing on your holiday. They will know if you are calling into work sick, but checking into a spa… or at your daughters PTA or just a shopping trip out. It’s all visible. You are being judged, and evaluated constantly. Your networks are receiving inputs and signals with everything that you say or do or don’t say or don’t do.  You walk into a meeting late; you are sending a message. You borrow stationery from the office for an emergency at home; you are sending a message, you write rude emails, you are sending out a message, you do not reprimand errant employees, you are sending a message… you go out drinking with your team; you are sending a message. Your brand is being defined and tested every minute.

On a lighter note, it is seldom that we are remembered for our professions…..more likely for what we stood for, what we meant and how we lived our lives..which tells us how important it is to build our character which defines our brand!

To begin creating a personal brand, you could follow a few simple steps:

1. Identify your Passion: What makes you tick? Call out your strengths and label them. Get as close to the basics as you can and be eloquent about what it is you believe you have on offer to the world. Several attempts could be made before you can zero in on what really defines you. But what is important is to believe in the fact that you had a purpose in life before anyone had an opinion about it! Start where you are, use what you have and do what you can. Keep characterizing yourself. Precise, concise and consistent.
2. Scale your Values to Articulate your Identity: Once you have defined yourself, you need to articulate your identity with your values. The Greek Philosopher Heraclitus had said that ‘Character is fate.' After all, if people like you, they will listen to you, but if they trust you, they will do business with you. Reputation matters tremendously. Admit mistakes if you make them. Work with all stakeholders to create mutually beneficial solutions to forge deeper relations. The base of all interactions should be Trust, Respect, and Humility, fundamental human values. Every interaction should reflect your values.  Brands don’t just live on the page anymore.  They are living breathing things. It is important to build your brand that is aligned with your values so that your actions are aligned with the message you are putting out there.
3. Resiliency & Growth: There may come upon some difficult times in your journey, which challenge your fundamental beliefs. The Valley of C, as this is often referred to, is the lowest point in a journey, from where on the only way forwards is upwards. To propel yourself out of the Valley of C, resiliency and growth are critical factors. These are important because they provide the opportunity to recalibrate, fortify and endorse your authentic brand. It is important not to let these create fear or shake your fundamental values. Forge through with the strength of your relationships and behaviors. Keep an eye on the goal and allow no one or nothing to weaken your resolve to adhere to your core values. The waves will settle, and what will emerge is a phoenix of a brand. Live out your promises in an authentic way and demonstrate those in how you relate and behave with all your stakeholders.
4. Don’t just Shift, Elevate: Constantly reinvent yourself and your offerings. ‘Don’t be part of the furniture,' as we often say at the workplace. It doesn’t help your brand to be one of the herd.  You ought to encourage yourself to think differently, keep adding to your experiences and perceptions. Don’t close your mind. Absorb and challenge yourself to see perspectives you previously found difficult to fathom. After all, wheels on luggage were introduced by a man who challenged the conforming way of lifting luggage!
5. Let the World see you as you are: The greatest power and impact of personal branding comes from thinking of all the above, holistically. If you speak at a forum, or at a professional association, identify ways to link it to the virtual world- like publishing your presentation online, or writing about your experience in your Blog, and uploading video snippets on YouTube. When you link the real and the virtual, you send a consistent message while amplifying your visibility and reducing the effort required to build a strong brand. Build a Twitter following. Use Twitter, Facebook, Linkedin and other networks to build a following. When you have an opinion, share it respectfully. When you produce some work or do something meaningful, talk about it. Allow people to look through a window into your world. Let you work speak for itself.  

In short, to build your effective personal brand, you need to work on your core architecture. Use your values to create your competitive advantage. Create a consistent messaging. Use your behaviors to behave out the competition. Generals wear their medals on their sleeves as a constant reminder of what they stand for, what they live for, and what they are willing to lay down their lives for. Similarly, your values should serve as your armor, your compass, and your guiding light, directing behavior, sharing your message and articulating your brand!

Shibani is a scholar, consultant, and lecturer in the field of workplace cultures. She has a passion for issues around spirituality and leadership and is working on unconventional stimulating work in the areas of cultural competitive advantage through values, and about deeper purpose at the workplace. Shibani helps organizations around the world, articulate values-based behaviors.You can find out more about her on www.shibanibelwalkar.com